CLOSURE – New beginning of Life
After thinking for about almost twelve hours now, I’ve decided to write about my opinions on finding closure. Wikipedia defines closure or need for closure as a term describing
…someone’s desire for a firm answer and a strong aversion towards ambiguity.
Let me tell you as I recount my personal experience.
There was this girl back in high school I was dating. And she never cleared what she actually wanted from me or from the relationships. We used to break-up all the time, I never quite knew if I were committed at a particular moment. Then on the coronation when it’s time to say farewell it seemed she didn’t want to let go of me at all. One day out of nowhere she went AWOL. No Facebook, no WhatsApp, nothing!
My point is, sometimes we’re left with a situation in which we just have to do the math and conclude based entirely on what the other person might want. It’s not a big deal for some people but for me it’s very unsettling. I can’t stay because I might turn out be a stupid, desperate person waiting for the impossible to happen. I can’t leave because I don’t want to be the person who gave up too soon. It’s not like I want her to come running back to me. It’s just that I need to see her only once, just to know that it’s over. To happily end the wonderful thing we shared… that it’s her own choice to get separated and not a compromise or circumstance…
And for me, Closure is not just a means to end things. It’s the start of new beginnings. And for psychology lovers, read more on Wikipedia page.
What’s your opinion on closure? What was the most unsettling situation you faced for which you wanted closure very badly? Comment below to let me know your opinions.